Before attending a party or dance hall, one important and necessary thing women can not neglect is to make themselves up. For example, before going out to an appointment with your costumers or friends especially male friends, women should chose a suitable dress or suit and with a suitable making up. You can use a lipstick to have charming lips. But remember not to have a heavy making up. Making up lightly is also a sign of respect for others. Nowadays in interviews some employers say that during the job interview, the company is more willing to choose those who make up suitably. They say that girls’ making up is the social etiquette. It does not mean that the employers look down upon the girls who do not make up just because whether a girl makes up reflects her social knowledge and culture of sense.
Interpersonal relationship is an initial part of life. Every one is part or unit of this integrated society. Nobody can live in the society without communication with others. So interpersonal relationship is what women should care about. In terms of interpersonal relationship, Scarlet and Melanie are of two different styles. Both set a good example to a woman who intends to achieve success in this field.
抱负女性;事业;家庭;人际来往
The description of Melanie’s appearance is as follows.
Melanie was a good wife who knew how to build a harmonious family. Even when Melanie knew that Scarlet loved her husband she still did not take some measures to stop her husband from getting along with Scarlet. Because she trusted her husband. When people gossiped that her husband had relationship with Scarlet, she was not angry as other women did. At a party during which all the people gathered together intending to see the fight between the two women, Scarlet and her husband were saved by Melanie’s kindness , love and outspoken trust which had been in her
A. to Learn from Scarlet and Use One’s Beauty Properly to Attract Others
Women should not only respect husbands but also the children. In today’s society there are some cases that the mother or the father read the child’s private letters or diaries, which is against the law. Every person has his own secret which he does not want to be found by others including the parents. Even though the parents say that they do this because they love children and care about their growth and do not want them to get into the trouble. But children also have something belonging to their own. So respect is also important to the happiness of a harmonious family.
有个伟人说妇女能顶半边天，有个智慧的作家说汉子的一半是姑娘。其实，当当代界，唱主角的依旧是汉子，姑娘犹如一座深藏的宝藏，远远没有被挖掘出来。不行否定，陪伴经济全球化，常识经济，我国入世等诸多因素的影响，女性的人生舞台获得了极大拓展，其涵养意识、寒暄意识、家庭意识、乐成意识等迅速强化。她们盼愿社会承认，发挥潜力;盼愿魅力四射，展示自我;盼愿独立进取，事业乐成;盼愿婚姻完满，人生幸福，但要真正成为这样的乐成女性并不容易。本文通过对《飘》中两个典范女性人物的阐明，提呈现代女性可从中进修和警惕的处所，主要是在事业方面可进修斯佳人的创新意识与本领以及自信;在家庭糊口方面可进修梅拉妮对丈夫的信任、尊重以及拥有一颗无限的爱心;在人际来往方面可进修斯佳人充实操作瑰丽的外表优势和梅拉妮拥有的微笑、厚道以及友好立场等内涵的涵养。
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The best advantage we can learn from Melanie is: trust your spouse. Women in today’ society suffer from divorce more frequently. The divorce rate is higher and higher than ever before. One factor accounts for the high divorce rate is distrust between the wives and husbands. Some women complain that their husbands do not come back home punctually after work. For example, if the husbands have not been back after the work time, the wives may wonder what the husbands are doing. Why do they have so many appointments of work? Are they really working over time? Are they having an informal relationship with other female workmates? Will they go dance or have dinner or date other beautiful, young, charming ladies? And some time when husbands forget their birthday, wedding anniversary, Valentine’s day or other important festivals which the wives regard highly, the wives may suspect whether they do not love them any more, whether they are not so attractive to them or for some other reasons. With such suspects in mind, the wives can not wait calmly. They may even employ detectives to trace husbands’ life. When the husbands find what the wives do behind them, they may feel uncomfortable to stay with them. Then a previous happy family may become a battle field. So husbands and wives should trust each other.
Today’s society is full of serious competitions. The pressure, as well as the perplexing social situation makes people worried. Women easily get lost or lose heart facing the failure or obstacles or difficulties. Then what can women do or what measures can women take to overcome the difficulties and finally achieve success in business? Let’s have a look at Scarlet in Gone with the Wind.
Melanie was like her aunt in many ways. She had her shyness, her sudden blushes, her modesty, but she did have common sense. Melanie had the face of a sheltered child who had never know anything but simplicity and kindness, truth and love, a child who had never looked upon harshness or evil and would not recognize them if she saw them. Because she had always been happy, she wanted every one around her to be happy, or at least, pleased with themselves. To this end, she always saw the best in everyone and remarkable kindly upon it. There was no servant so stupid that she did not find some redeeming trait of loyalty and kind heartedness, no girl so ugly and disagreeable that she could not discover grace of form or nobility of character in her, and no man so worthless or so boring that she did not view him in the light of his possibilities rather than his actualities.
“Self-trust is the first secret of success”, said Emerson. It is known that one’s life couldn’t go smoothly without difficulty. Difficulties or frustration are the obstacles on the road to success. Now that we can not avoid these terrible factors, why not be confident to overcome them. Scarlet always said “tomorrow is another day”. Why can not the women say that “Today I meet and fight against the difficulties, tomorrow I will meet the success?” There is a saying that confidence is half the success. Be confident means that you should also be optimistic. Confident and optimistic people
Nowadays, family life is still important for women. But even women years ago already spent most of their time on the family, there were still endless problems encountering them. So how can people have a harmonious and happy family? Maybe you can learn something from Melanie, the other heroin in Gone with the Wind.
From the above, it is clear that women in today’s society should learn from Scarlet to have innovation, confidence and self-trust.
In some degree we can say that beautiful appearance accounts her success in interpersonal relationship. Women in 21st century should also learn something from Scarlet to pay enough attention to the appearance. Even though some people say that “don’t judge a person by appearance”. It can not be denied that women with beautiful appearance are more likely to attract men and leave a deep impression. Loving beauty is people’s nature. A research shows that even a baby unable to speak will smile at the beautiful persons instead of the ones who are ugly. So interesting and funny! But that is the fact.
A famous man has once said that women hold half the sky. A wise writer has said that half the man is a woman. In fact, women are just like the deep-hidden treasure which has not been explored completely. It is not deniable that with the economic globalization, knowledge economy and China’s entry into the WTO, women have stepped into a bigger arena. Women have a better sense of interpersonal relationship, family and business success. They have the desire to be admitted by the society. But all these good wishes are not easy to accomplish. This paper gives some suggestions to women hoping to get success in career, family and interpersonal relationship through the analysis of the main characters Scarlet and Melanie in the famous masterpiece Gone with the Wind. In terms of success in career, women can learn from Scarlet and cultivate the ability of innovation, self-confidence and self-trust. As for success in family life, women can learn Melanie’s trust, respect and love. To succeed in interpersonal relationship, women can follow Scarlet to use beauty properly to attract others, and follow Melanie to use her internal beauty to win others’ respect and trust.
Scarlet knew the arts and graces of being attractive to man. She knew how to smile so that her dimples leaped; how to walk pigeon-toed so that her wide hoop skirts swayed entrancingly ; how to look up into a man’s face and then rope her eyes and bat the lids rapidly so that she seemed a kind girl with gentle emotion. Most of all she learned how to conceal from men a sharp intelligence beneath a face as sweet and bland as a baby’s. Scarlet’s mother taught her all that a gentlewoman should know, but she learned only the outward signs of gentility. The inner grace from which these signs should spring she now learned, nor did she see any reason for learning it. Appearance was enough, for the appearance of ladyhood had won her popularity and that was all she wanted. She had received proposals from nearly all the young men in the neighborhood and many other places. Scarlet knew which dress would best set off her charms and make her most irresistible to men.
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A. Features and Advantages of Melanie in Gone with the Wind
