he says that if you want to have a happy family you should never try to change your partner’s hobbits, ideas ,etc. Every person has his own characters and features. Being a spouse does not mean that husband should reshape his own personalities or belief or other routine according to the requirements of the wife. If the husband can accept wife’ suggestions, that is ok. But if the husband really will not change, women should remember never to force the husband to do it. Even though you two are couple now, respect is also needed between you. Respect can make the partner have their own secret or make the other part comfortable.
Some novels and fictions create the images of women who are successful in career and gain respect from people. But these images are just the good wishes of the writers. The reason why these writers create such heroines is partly that in real life under that background, women can not easily succeed either in family life, career or interpersonal relationship.
voice as she crossed and face the curious, malicious covertly hostile crowd. How neatly Melanie had scotched the scandal, keeping Scarlet at her side all through the dreadful evening! People were somewhat bewildered, but they were polite.
Besides innovation, women should also have confidence and self-trust.
Ⅳ. Suggestions on How to Achieve Success in Interpersonal Relationship for a Woman
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The best advantage we can learn from Melanie is: trust your spouse. Women in today’ society suffer from divorce more frequently. The divorce rate is higher and higher than ever before. One factor accounts for the high divorce rate is distrust between the wives and husbands. Some women complain that their husbands do not come back home punctually after work. For example, if the husbands have not been back after the work time, the wives may wonder what the husbands are doing. Why do they have so many appointments of work? Are they really working over time? Are they having an informal relationship with other female workmates? Will they go dance or have dinner or date other beautiful, young, charming ladies? And some time when husbands forget their birthday, wedding anniversary, Valentine’s day or other important festivals which the wives regard highly, the wives may suspect whether they do not love them any more, whether they are not so attractive to them or for some other reasons. With such suspects in mind, the wives can not wait calmly. They may even employ detectives to trace husbands’ life. When the husbands find what the wives do behind them, they may feel uncomfortable to stay with them. Then a previous happy family may become a battle field. So husbands and wives should trust each other.
An ideal woman is one who should at least be successful in career, family and interpersonal relationship. But do not be scared of the three goals which seem difficult to achieve. To be an ideal woman, one can get some inspiration or suggestions from Scarlet and Melanie, the two heroines in Gone with the Wind.
1. Trust
Scarlet in Gone with the Wind attracted almost every man she met. Just like in the first paragraph of Gone with the Wind:
Before attending a party or dance hall, one important and necessary thing women can not neglect is to make themselves up. For example, before going out to an appointment with your costumers or friends especially male friends, women should chose a suitable dress or suit and with a suitable making up. You can use a lipstick to have charming lips. But remember not to have a heavy making up. Making up lightly is also a sign of respect for others. Nowadays in interviews some employers say that during the job interview, the company is more willing to choose those who make up suitably. They say that girls’ making up is the social etiquette. It does not mean that the employers look down upon the girls who do not make up just because whether a girl makes up reflects her social knowledge and culture of sense.
B. What to Learn from Melanie
